Osho on Imposing onself on to others in relationships

‘Everyone is imposing oneself on the other or wants to impose. Hardly can one escape from being imposed. I find the whole world going into a wrong direction. The husband is imposing himself on wife. The parents do the same to their children. If parents don’t do, in school the teacher will do. Friend is imposing on a friend. Nobody is anybody’s friend. We do not even know what friendship is. There is no difference between a friend and a foe. The enemy says, ‘Accept what I say otherwise I will beat you.’ The friend says, Accept what I say otherwise I will break off friendship.’ It is all the same. There is no difference.’ ‘The right thing is - one should understand that Mr. A is so and one should accept him being so. If one cannot accept, it is better to leave the person alone. But one must not impose upon somebody. It is straightway a murder. And this is the root cause of neurosis and tension of the whole mankind because the reality is that everyone has one’s own individuality, own personality and own speciality’. ‘Recently, I read a marvellous book. It says that for the past twenty years, an experiment is being carried out on mad people and it has brought wondrous results. The experiment is that of acceptance. The author says that mad house is not the right place for mad people. In fact, that is their last discard by the society. According to that experiment, mad people are to be accepted as they are. If a mad man abuses, it’s O.K. If a mad man dances naked, it’s O.K. too. This way, he is relaxed in 15-20 days and gets cured. The acceptance dissolves the tensions created by denial. Whosoever is psychologically mad, the treatment is only acceptance. Yes, if there is some physical part in the madness, for that medicines can be of help.’